About Shutting Off the Gas to Gaslighting:
My latest book, Shutting Off the Gas to Gaslighting, came from years of working with people who kept asking the same question in different ways: “Why do I feel so confused in this relationship?”
Over time, I realized it wasn’t just miscommunication or conflict—it was something deeper. People were being pulled out of their own reality and taught to doubt what they knew.
This book breaks down gaslighting in a way that goes beyond definitions. It explores the psychological and energetic dynamics behind it—how it shows up in relationships, families, workplaces, and even within ourselves. You’ll see real patterns like love bombing, self-doubt, and emotional manipulation laid out clearly, along with what healthy behavior actually looks like side-by-side.
It took me several years of studying, working with clients, and refining these ideas to finally put this into a form that people could use. I didn’t want it to just be something you read—I wanted it to be something you recognize yourself in.
More than anything, this book is about helping you trust what you see again. Because once you can do that, everything changes.
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Author Bio:
John Wheeler, LPCC-S, is a therapist, life coach, and facilitator devoted to helping people reclaim themselves and create lives that actually feel like their own. With a background spanning education, public service, and mental health, his work bridges clinical insight with a deeper awareness of the energetic and psychological patterns that shape human behavior.
Through his work with clients, John began to notice a consistent theme: people going against what they know to be true in order to maintain relationships, avoid conflict, or meet expectations. This disconnection often led to confusion, anxiety, and a gradual loss of self-trust.
Rather than focusing solely on understanding the behavior of others, John’s approach centers on awareness, choice, and self-trust. He invites people out of reaction and into a space where they can recognize what is true for them—and choose from that place.
His book, Shutting Off the Gas to Gaslighting, offers a new conversation around gaslighting—one that goes beyond identifying manipulation and instead empowers readers to trust themselves, recognize what they know, and reclaim their reality.